And so it goes
Life, or survival
Because surviving is what I’m doing most days
Wracking my brain, trying to figure out how I made it through
Years of starvation and body hatred
To get to now
Fighting for my life with my own self
Begging this reel of horror behind my eyes to stop
For just a moment
The more I fight, the harder it gets
I was comfortable with my war on food, on my body
It barely frightened me at all anymore
And then just when I was getting a grip
My feet fell out from under me
And I was lost
Wondering how I could make it through the gauntlet of anorexia (did that really happen to me?)
And then be struck with a blow that knocked the wind out of me
Not what I was or wasn’t doing
Just some disconnect, some chemical imbalance
Disruption
Sometimes it’s hard to notice such a slow change
And then, out of nowhere, I’m facing my worst fear
And shutting out, shutting down
Sleeping like I’ll never sleep enough
And the tears won’t come, no matter how many times I blink
My eyes are dry as a desert
Yet there’s a storm just inside
And finally, I cry
The tears won’t stop
At work, running errands, driving down the street
All a blur, just like my past
Did I ever imagine I’d be here?
I put all my focus on healing
On feeding myself, my soul
And no matter how hard I try, I can’t heal this
Beast
Depression
Crippling, blinding, headache inducing
Thoughts running around and around on repeat
Numb, again
I always wondered what came first
Depression, or eating disorder
How could depression not have come first
When its grip on me is like second nature
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It’s been a tough 2018 already, guys. I’ve begun writing so many posts, and abandoned them out of fear. Fear of honesty, showing what’s really going on behind my “hi, how are yous” and “I’m good, thanks”. Fear of dismissal, of being found out. It’s real life, but it doesn’t feel like it.
Not calling the psychiatrist, because her nurse makes inappropriate jokes about mental health, and giving up too easily when I couldn’t reach the doctor myself. By some miracle, I got in to see the psychiatrist this past week, and she upped my mood stabilizer (god knows it wasn’t stabilizing anything at that point). It felt like a relief, and yet it was deja vu. I’ll probably be there again, after a similar episode, in a month or two.
She says “you’re at the lowest dose, and really nobody stays there. We’ll just have to keep adjusting it until you get to the dose that’s right for you”. And though I knew that was coming, and I nod and say OK, it’s not OK. Because going through that again, putting my husband through that again is not OK. I’m at the mercy of two little white pills and one huge orange capsule that work together (or don’t) to fix a breach in my brain. And I’m tired of trying, but of course, I must. Often, things get worse before they get better. It’s just another storm to brave and more habits to break.